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Coffee Ad to Awaken Sleeper Cell?

Noted Right-Wing Malcontent Unhinged by Scarf

Ultra-conservative FAUX News commentator Michelle Malkin, yesterday, accused popular faux-chef Rachel Ray of inciting "murderous jihad" in her new ad for Dunkin Donuts. Malkin was apparently upset, not by anything Ray said in the ad, but what she was wearing. Wrote Malkin, "The keffiyeh, for the clueless, is the traditional scarf of Arab men ...a regular adornment of Muslim terrorists appearing in beheading and hostage-taking videos, the apparel has been mainstreamed by both ignorant and not-so-ignorant fashion designers, celebrities, and left-wing icons."

Rray

However, Ray's fashion statement is Malkin's misstatement, as the paisley design showing on the corner of the scarf clearly differentiates it from a keffiyeh which is checkered from end to end. Said a Dunkin Donuts spokesperson, "The scarf Rachel is wearing is actually black and white, rather than the blue and white checkered keffiyeh once available from knockoff vendors on the streets of every major city. Besides, the keffiyeh as a fashion accessory is so last century."

Reached for comment, Ray said only "Altiab!" (apparently Arabic for "delish!") before shoving a munchkin in her mouth and dashing off to a cookbook signing.

In related news, Dunkin Donuts denied plans to add grilled falafel sandwiches to their new lunch menu.

Suspected Secret Paisley Code

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Yes, it's satire. It's about as manufactured as this particular brand of outrage. The quote from Malkin however, as well as her objections to the original ad, are real. I couldn't have made that up.

The photo is originally from Boston.com and a hat tip goes to Momocrats.

Universal Healthcare is the Best!

hello everyone,

i am literally boiling over about the healthcare issue and must voice some perpective to all my fellow american citizens who have never lived in a country that has universal healthcare. i was born and raised in the usa (most of the time without health insurance) and after falling in love, have lived in montreal for 11 years.

in short, canada takes care of its own on the healthcare game, HANDS DOWN. i luckily grew up "healthy enough" in the states that i didn't end up having a situation like John Q (watch http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FqFiFhGpB34 and tell me what YOU would do as a parent!), or like some of the people in michael moore's new must see film SiCKO. he's taking the film one step further to encourage americans to SPEAK OUT about their own healthcare challenges in the usa to help lobby congress at:(http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VEFoq_5RbC4

i have to tell you, after living on both sides of the fence (so to speak), that canada's universal healthcare is an AMAZING system that americans could only be so lucky to have! that is the plain, simple truth. those who disagree are most likely either:

a. americans who have never lived in canada themselves &/or are misled by the majority of advertiser-agenda-controlled american media.

(or)

b. canadians who have lots of money and would like to be able to have private healthcare so they don't have to wait in line for a medical check-up... which i hate to say is why alot of americans don't believe in universal healthcare -- because they can afford private insurance (and the preferential treatment that comes with it) and don't want to pay higher taxes to subsidize those who cannot afford it. it is a very selfish POV, if you ask me.

and as the film SiCKO reveals, even having private health insurance in the states is wrought with horrific stories of scandal and greed-driven, inhuman cases of dying humans being left in the lurch by insurance companies unwilling to help them!

to further illustrate my point, i shall kindly refer you to an american tv clip below, which takes the healthcare crisis even one step further... how pharmaceutical companies and government have A LOT to gain by people getting sick in the first place. this is the hard truth and i'm sure is too difficult to swallow for most people. check out:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rHXXTCc-IVg&eurl=http://widget-91.slide.com/widgets/sf.swf

the point of the clip, to me, which mirrors my views in general, is that the problem ultimately comes down to our FLAWED ECONOMIC MODEL in the usa.

capitalism is about greed and profit. until we prioritize the greater common good over the individual on issues of health and education in the usa, nothing will EVER change. even if everyone could afford private insurance, the system is based on giving the least amount of care so insurance companies can make MORE money for their dear shareholders. only universal healthcare can give you a system where a doctor will prescribe what you need, not what an insurance company TELLS him or her that you need...

canada is a socialist society, which means (among other things) that citizens believe that it is a basic, human right to have equal access to healthcare and education. as such, they agree to pay higher taxes to make that happen! and they even throw in public television and the arts as well (ie: our national public broadcaster CBC -- the PBS of canada -- is subsidized by taxpayers!).

it boils down to priorities. if you believe that we are one big family on this planet, then we should put our $ where our mouths are. pay higher taxes and help EVERYONE have these basic rights like the citizens of places like canada, france and sweden.

our children, and our children's children, deserve better than what we have given them so far. PLEASE take the time to speak out about this issue. it is time that americans brought back the humanity in democracy. it is not too late!

i look forward to your feedback! and if you're ever in montreal, let me know and i'll give you a personal tour of our healthcare facilities!

sincerely,

soccermombobbijo

Values? Really?

That old-time religion popping up in the campaign again. And I don't like it.

There was that awkward moment during one of the Democratic debates when someone in the audience asked each candidate if they prayed and if they believed prayer could stop bad things from happening. Bravo here to Bill Richardson who mentioned his religion and then said his prayers were private.

There's that oft-repeated notion that Evangelicals are uncomfortable with the Republican front-runners are having a hard time settling on a candidate to support (Oh, no!).

There's Mitt Romney's "Mormon problem." Hey listen, there's lots of reasons that Mitt Romney should not be president, but his religion isn't one of them.

According to the Christian Science Monitor, almost 70% of Americans say they want a president with strong religious beliefs. I'm wondering why so many feel that someone else's religion is really that important.

Truly, I have nothing against religion, I'm a regular churchgoer myself, but that in no way qualifies me for public office. I want a president who also believes in science. And facts. It makes me squirm to see the candidates of any party try to out-devout one another. It rings falsely.

Please, let us not mistake religiousity for doing the right thing, for having a conscience.

Remember when the election of 2004 was supposedly the triumph of the "values voter?" Well it turns out that several key states pushed anti-gay-marriage referenda on to their ballots to bring out the religious extremists. Discrimination is not a value.

And pro-life voters - how do you justify voting for candidates who may support your anti-abortion stance but then insist through their other votes that quality of life necessities like health care, child care, housing, and education are only for those who can afford them? What would happen to all those "unborn" once they are born? Where's that moral compass now? Pro-life until birth doesn't cut it, especially if you are one of those who want to do away with contraceptives too.

It's not that we have to forbid religion in the public square, but I'm not sure that we should be demanding it. How can we possibly claim this is a "Christian nation" when we have all but abandoned, by way of policy, the sick and the poor. If nothing else, I think we have to consider carefully what we are really looking for. It's good to hear Edwards and Huckabee weaving program ideas into their professions of faith; actions to back up their beliefs.

Too often the people who are most publicly religious are busy calling for abstinence-only education, restricting the HPV vaccine, or a ban on gay marriage or adoption. They want to teach creationism and define what a family looks like. You don't hear much about the least of their brothers. And at some point you start to realize that what they're touting as values are really just someone else's rules.

Co-op Healthcare?

With Michael Moore's latest film SiCKO taking on the American healthcare system, the subject has been on my mind lately. Years ago, the two-year-old daughter of some friends was diagnosed with leukemia. They had "good" health insurance and despite that, her dad still told me at the end of her treatment, "We'll never be able to own a home; we'll never be out of this crushing debt. But you know what? How can I care when she's alive and looking at me with such a beautiful smile?" And while I agreed with him, I couldn't understand how it could be possible that a family would lose everything in this country just to keep the one thing that mattered more than anything in the world: their child. The company they worked for was also deeply impacted with a sudden and dramatic increase in premiums to the point that many employees had to drop their spouse or children from the coverage and seek "inferior" plans.

Even my dear friends with a child who lived only five days in the NICU before they took him home to die are struggling under the debt their insurance passed to them.  They have to face the same "crushing debt" and don't have the comfort of his smile.

Is this really what having "good" insurance should mean?

On Tuesday the issue came into sharp focus for my family when I had to call an ambulance for my husband. He's home and resting now, but I'm still afraid of what the day spent in the ER, the emergency surgery and the overnight hospital care will eventually cost us. Our premiums already went up once this year and as a freelance family, we pay every penny ourselves.

Personally, I happen to find it sick that anyone makes a profit off of something that should be a basic right in an industrialized country such as the USA. I'm not talking about care providers or administrators, I'm referring to shareholders. My husband and I recently tossed around the concept of a co-op heath insurance company. Aren't HMOs (Health Maintenance Organizations) reporting record earnings more and more frequently? Why can't the customer see some of their money back rather than the shareholder pocketing it all? Is there a reason we can't simply pass the profit back to the little guy at the end of the year? Your premiums would still be about the same but if the company made money by years end, as a co-op member, you'd be entitled to a share of that profit. I know, it sounds distinctly un-American, but I'm OK with that.

Could it work?

With the Soccer Mom Vote getting more and more of the politicians' attention, we have the opportunity to make a difference. This is where we start brainstorming ideas, ladies.  Those in power are listening, let's give them somewhere to start.

Principle or Pragmatism on Immigration?

The Senate defeated President Bush's attempt at immigration reform after lengthy wrangling and debate. This may be the end of the matter on the Senate floor, but immigration remains a hot topic in the Presidential race.

That improved border security and additional enforcement resources are are needed, there is little doubt. The question that remains is what to do about the estimated 12 million undocumented, illegal, immigrants who are already here.

Border states like Texas, California, and New Mexico have long complained that illegal immigration was putting an unsustainable burden on education and healthcare systems. Many of these people may be working, but neither they nor their employer contribute payroll taxes to the state or federal coffers. The pragmatic thing to do would be to get these workers on the taxrolls. Employers would have to pay a competitive wage, we wouldn't have thousands of people hiding from the census takers, and federal money for education and healthcare could be distributed more realistically.

But efforts to accomplish this were derailed by people seeking to deny "amnesty" to a population they perceived as having broken the law.

And yet no one seem to know what that law really is. The path to citizenship may be one of the most confusing set of rules and regulations in this country short of the tax code. Here in Massachusetts, we had the wife of a missing U.S. soldier threatened with deportation. Senators Kerry and Kennedy intervened, but wouldn't you have thought that marrying a U. S. citizen would have made her one too? Apparently not.

My second internationally adopted child received a certificate of citizenship automatically about three months after he got here, but if I want to get that same document for my first child, I have to fill out yet another form and pay $200.

And then there's my Nicaraguan college roommate, here on a student visa and a full scholarship. Her application for citizenship was denied in the late 80s because she "hadn't done anything illegal." She, like many people who are here illegally, simply chose to overstay her visa until she could find sponsorship.

Attempts to reform this process were not much better - they included a point-based system for determining the merit of a visa application (doctors and MBAs are close to the top of the list - no longer do we really want, the tired, poor and huddled masses), an amendment suggesting that immigrants "go home" for two years before applying to get back in, and apparently no restriction on people who have broken other laws such as drunk driving.

But the biggest question for me was really not addressed in any of the debate in the legislature or in the media. Even if it was realistic to deport 12 million people, how do we handle enforcement in a humane manner?  Raiding a place of employment and dumping immigrants' kids into the foster care system can't possibly be the right answer. Neither can sweeping mothers off the streets while they are bringing their kids to school.

Can't we do better than this?

Play that funky music white boy

Nothing amuses me quite like an uptight old guy trying to be cool.  I'm not sure whether to be impressed or horrified at the antics of Deputy Chief of Staff Karl Rove. You've got to see it to believe it. 

Hattip to Mari for this one.

If They Give us Irrelevant News, Does the News Become Irrelevant?

Last week in the car I was listening to this discussion of the state of journalism today. Centered mostly around a new study from the Project for Excellence in Journalism.

The study looked at all forms of journalism; print, broadcast, and online. As I understand it, the news is not great. We have probably all heard about print readership being down as people switch to online newsreading, and an increased fragmentation of the news audience. This translates into less ad revenue and less money available to invest in news gathering. More and more outlets are closing their international bureaus and greater amounts of information are coming from wire services and what is being called "user-generated" content such as messageboards, bloggers, and vloggers. The report calls it an era of shrinking ambitions, as in:

News organizations need to do more to think through the implications of this new era of shrinking ambitions. The move toward building audience around “franchise” areas of coverage or other traits is a logical response to fragmentation and can, managed creatively, have journalistic value. To a degree, journalism’s problems are oversupply, too many news organizations doing the same thing. But something gained means something lost, especially as newsrooms get smaller. There is already evidence that basic monitoring of local government has suffered. Regional concerns, as opposed to local, are likely to get less coverage. Matters with widespread impact but little audience appeal, always a challenge, seem more at risk of being unmonitored. What do concepts like localism and branding really mean? Should only national newspapers maintain foreign bureaus? Does localism mean provincialism? Should news organizations, so as not to abandon more high-level coverage, enlist citizen sentinels to monitor community news? To what extent do journalists still have a role in creating a broad agenda of common knowledge? Those issues, debated in theory before, are becoming real. And the wrong answers could hasten, not stave off, the decline of news organizations.

For me, that raises questions of quality. I sometimes think that if I had known myself a little better or had gotten some decent guidance in high school or college, I would have gone on to a journalism program. Then I look at the shape that the news media is in today and I think maybe it's a good thing I didn't go that route. I'd likely be horribly frustrated with my job.

Every evening for about a year I was hungrily watching a EuroNews feed that I first discovered while in Russia. Comcast has recently removed it from my lineup and I feel like I have lost contact with the outside world. Though focused mostly (as you might imagine) on the European Union, the broadcast also opens a window on the Middle East and Africa in a way that you don't often see here in the United States. And, unlike the BBC, I have not been able to detect any obvious anti-American slant. For the record, I do like the scope of news that the BBC offers, but they are sometimes a little too fond of showcasing the more ridiculous aspects of American society.

Of course, American news has been doing a fine job of that all by itself. In an effort to stop the hemorraging of advertising revenue, there has been a perceptible shift away from hard news to infotainment. Even cable news has succumbed to this tactic as evidenced by a recent count of minutes spent on the life and death of Anna Nicole Smith vs. the war in Iraq.  There is a place for escapism, but it's at the supermarket checkout, not CNN.

In that regard, the news industry has often been its own worst enemy in hastening its irrelevance. A glance at the local news gives you the usual litany of shootings, car accidents, fires, traffic jams, and a segment I like to call "Parental Scare of the Week." (Insert voice of doom here) Hardly more than a few seconds are devoted to anything happening at the State House. I don't even watch TV news anymore. It's irrelevant to me.

Americans are already woefully ignorant about the world beyond our shores, and many of us have met the foreign friend who knows more about our American system than we do. The closing of foreign bureaus not only exacerbates this problem but helps allow disasters in other parts of the world to go unchecked or ignored by one of the few remaining nations with the power to influence change.

But what really concerns me is the increased fragmentation of our media and its audience. Relentless political attacks and a few significant missteps by institutions such as the New York Times have chipped away at the notion of an authoritative source for the facts of an event or issue. No longer do we as a nation sit down with Walter Cronkite every evening. In addition, the proliferation of Web-based outlets has created a situation where everyone is preaching to their own choirs. As a reader, I can select only those news outlets which present my preconceived notions of the world, and be entertained by snarky attacks on those who do not share my views.  I may or may not be aware that what I am reading, watching, or hearing is largely opinion or agenda journalism rather than news or analysis, but it gives me confidence in my views and reinforces them, so I know I must be right about them. Indignation about the errors of others is strangely empowering and often convinces me that people who disagree with those views are beneath consideration.

What I'm reading may be the result of an unsubstantiated rumor, a retaliatory leak, or just outright bias, but if I hear, see, or read it enough times, it must be true. For instance, maybe there is an upside to the civil war in Iraq. Maybe Mark Foley was really a Democrat (don't believe me, check out the eyebrow-raising screenshots at this link).

The traditional role of the press has been that of watchdog on the government, but the media increasingly needs its own watchdog, and possibly a new injection of gravitas.  More than ever we need a well-informed citizenry, what we are getting instead is a partitioned nation of media consumers high on their own outrage.

Bereavement in America

In the last couple of weeks a friend of mine gave birth and lost her son, all in about five days. He was born with a heart defect that caused massive brain damage and could never even breathe on his own. Born at home on a Sunday he spent the rest of the week at the hospital, hooked up to machines and undergoing diagnostic tests as they tried to determine what went wrong in this tiny, perfectly beautiful little person. By Friday everyone had had enough and the family spent four hours fighting the hospital to take their son home.  They hadn't been allowed to hold him, not once since his birth, and wanted him to die where he'd been born. The removed him from the ventilator, snuggled up with him on the couch and watched him until he passed, his final breaths easy and a sense of peace washing his being. I can't think of a better way to die.

The parents were shattered, of course but they felt like the struggle was finally over both for their son and for the litany of choices they were forced to make. They spent a couple of days on the road, working through healing only time and distance can give. When they got home, mom called in to work to tell them what had happened. She got an email several hours later from the payroll department informing her that she had to come back to work; with no child her maternity leave had been canceled.

This is most likely the result of someone who hasn't a clue what they're talking about. Maternity leave, as it was explained to me, is disability for pregnancy and childbirth. It is in no way connected to the end result (baby living, baby not). Her union rep made it very clear that if her employer didn't fix this, his next call would be to the media. Every attorney in town would be thrilled to take on this case, as I'm pretty sure she'd win.

But what got me thinking about politics, and therefore the Soccer Mom Vote, was the casual air with which mothers are systematically disregarded by our employers. How can it be that the "greatest nation in the world" allows their mothers no more than six weeks to bond with baby? How is it that our neighbors to the North get a year to bond and we get a pink slip if we don't hurry back? How is it that so many work places have no location for a mother to pump breastmilk or in house daycare? How has our focus become so anti child that a payroll flunkie could make the assumption that a grieving mother with stitches in her girly bits better get back to work or risk loosing her job? 

I want to give you all a task - a way to make this better - but the truth is, I don't know how. So I turn to you: how can we make our work places more sensitive to the needs of parents? I really need to know there is a solution, because right now I am so disillusioned with America, I'm this close to running off to a country who values children and their parents. Any suggestions?

fear of flying

My friend Zane recently flew from Jakarta, Indonesia to Phoenix, Arizona with his toddler son and four-month-pregnant wife.  They had several stops, but the last leg was from San Francisco to Phoenix.  All of them are U.S. citizens with U.S. passports, though they currently live in Indonesia.

Their experience going through security was awful:

"I decided to go first. My wife, who was pushing our sleeping son in the stroller, was next in line. I walked through the metal detector first without incident. “Please remove the baby from the stroller and place the stroller on the conveyor belt!” bellowed the male security person to my wife. My wife, exhausted, called me to help her break down the heavy stroller while she lifted our son from the stroller. As I tried to return through the metal detector to assist my pregnant wife and son I was stopped by the male security guard. “You cannot go back through the metal detector.” ... My heart sank and my blood boiled as I stared at my pregnant wife as she struggled to break down the stroller, my bleary eyed son resting on her shoulder."

Reading this reminded me of the lengths that we all go to now at airports.  I have to take off my coat, my belt, my watch and my shoes just to go through security.  My laptop must be out of it's case, in it's own bin.  I can no longer travel with only carry-on luggage because of the restrictions on liquids and gels.  It is incredibly inconvenient.  It tries even the most experienced and patient traveler.  And if you're traveling with children?  Don't expect anyone to cut you any slack.  In fact, you might be more suspicious.  (I had to laugh out loud when I found one of those checked baggage search declarations in Claire's bright pink Dora the Explorer backpack.)

Zane ends his letter with this statement, which really struck a chord with me:

"My hope and point in writing this letter is to ask that in your efforts to incorporate rigorous and sound security policies that you do not sacrifice the values of respect, dignity, and compassion toward all men, women, and children."

What do you think?  Have you traveled by air since 9/11?  What have your experiences been?  And on the larger scale, have we already sacrificed our personal freedoms too much for the sake of the "war on terror"?  Or are these regulations a reasonable means of protecting our nation's safety?

Talk.

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